Despite their greatest efforts many people are not able either to live their life fully or relate well within their families. They can experience powerful forces that thwart them in their lives. They can feel as entangled within the dynamics of their family as if in a spider's web. These dynamics are like the wind. The wind is not visible but its presence felt from the disturbance it leaves in its wake and it's impact on our body and senses.
Entanglements in family dynamics can result in relationship difficulties between partners, between parents and children, and between siblings. They can also contribute to other difficulties such as addictions, illnesses and negative repetitive patterns in our lives.
When we think psychologically we normally attribute these problems to negative attitudes or our upbringing. Twenty five years ago Bert Hellinger developed a method using constellations, to reveal hidden dynamics within the family, which he called "The Orders of Love". When the natural order becomes distorted by external forces such as an early death, the negative entanglements can persist for several generations.
Constellation work is a process by which systemic influences on a person are made visible. In setting up a constellation, a particpant selects people to represent his or her family members and moves them around the room until their relative positions reflect the participants experience of his or her family. When this movement is done silently and with respect, the representatives report experiences similar to those of the original family members. The dynamics of the family relationship can be observed. The facilitator works in a highly respectful manner to bring to awareness blocks that prevent love from flowing to all members of the system.